Acceptance of The Good

21 Oct

What an incredible week(end) its been for our Other Queen (and a feast of the senses for her admirers)! We went from having a few obscure glimpses of her dates out with Rob in Los Angeles a week ago (though they both looked incredibly relaxed and happy) to All Kristen…ALL.THE.TIME. I don’t need to break down her schedule for you guys, you were already along the ride with me, and we probably  exchanged a few tweet-moments of “unf” and “ohmahgawd” and THUDs. But because Kristen killed her press interviews for Welcome to the Rileys and completely dominated the night at the Scream Awards, I’m posting the pretty and fist-pumping in solidarity for our Reining Queen’s clear declaration of superiority. Girlfriend OWNED. EVERYTHING.

So, in a flurry of speculation and second-guessing and in defying space-time-continuum, Kristen, Rob and Taylor all were photographed on the set of Breaking Dawn in Baton Rouge on October 15, as the actors were there to begin pre-production on the films. I am placing a couple of pics up for a few reasons: a) Kristen and Rob were aware the pictures were being taken b.) It’s the return of Rob’s LB hat (I have such hometown pride) c.) It’s the return of Rob’s body guard DEAN, and Kristen’s PA and all-around goodness JOHN; hence, a DeJohn Reunion and, d.) Well, a puppy dog is present. And I love big puppy dogs, as does Kristen.

Ok, so we didn’t actually see those BD set shots until a day or two after they happened, but instead, we were shaking our heads in amazement at the thought that Kristen would really fly back and forth from the east coast to the west coast and back again in the matter of 20 hours. See, she was expected to attend (and film) the Spike Scream Awards in Los Angeles on Saturday night, and literally jet back to the east coast for her press junket and press premieres for Welcome to the Rileys by Monday. Well, our girl pulled it off . She BROUGHT. IT. HARD. She was present to accept her award for Best Actress in  Eclipse. When the first images trickled in of Kristen at the Scream Awards….All I could hear was Gary Wright singing Dream Weaver. Legit. Check my Twitter timeline. Friends began sending me YouTube clips of the song, and the bits from Wayne’s World  (Thanks @RKDaily and @DrownInIt!) It was all slow-mo. Bella-Swan-Hair-Blowing-in-the-wind. White confetti (snowflakes, right? not human scalp?) flitting down from the ceiling. Sparkles. And she looked…goooooood. Brilliant. Spectacular.

Ooooh Dream Weaver...I believe you can get me thru the nigh-hiiight

In her white and black trimmed Guishem mini and Giuseppe Zanotti pumps, I personally thought Kristen has never looked more magnificent.  . . .Coming…or going….

oh holy hell.

I think she looked incredible because she exuded HAPPINESS. JOY. COMFORT. GROUNDING. CONFIDENCE. Over the past few weeks, I feel that we’ve had the great honor of witnessing our Queen grow more assured not only in her physical beauty, but also in the public expression that she and Rob are partners, and in the clever choices she’s made for her career. Currently Kristen is garnering phenomenal critical accolades, thanks to her role as Mallory in Welcome To The Rileys. I’ll speak more on the incredible responses to WTTR in just a few.

She brought her A-Game to the press junket. The young girl–who used to fidget, habitually comb hands through her hair, haltingly produce answers since her cerebral side presided over her spontaneous side–was all but non-existent. In the interview chair sat a woman who was poised, open, friendly, and eloquent as she spoke of the  multitude of bruises on her body from two weeks’ worth of pole dancing practice and how it was to work with Tony Soprano (the rather “teddy-bear-like” James Gandolfini).

What led to this shift for Kristen? What factors lead to any of us to exude and express certainty? Referring to the brilliant and accessible The Curse of the Good Girl by Rachel Simmons (You may recall I favor her work immensely, as she wrote Odd Girl Out, about female aggression and bullying, and we discussed  the topic in The Musings titled: Aphrodite and Kristen Go Against Code ), genuine confidence can be instilled when we ourselves  follow, then teach our children, friends and our Crew a few concepts:

 

  • Identify Strengths Knowing your challenges is one thing. I think we all can identify things we’re less-than pleased about with ourselves. We accept too readily that we are flawed. We very easily are swayed by external critics, media messages–remember, Kristen refers to these people as the Bullshit People. No wonder she flashes them the double-bird salute. Why can’t we easily accept that we’re good at something? To believe we excel? That we have talent? That we are worthy? Make your list, my lovelies. Do some soul-searching and have some talks with your parents and  your best friends; re-read resumes and old report cards. Knowing your strengths–whether it be incredible balance, the ability to sing opera, do math in your head quickly, roll your tongue– leads to a feeling of uniqueness, pride and resilience. And KStew Fierceness apparently.

In the About KJ Page of this site, I include a Sentence Completion activity (it’s the group therapist in me, I’ve gotta have par-ti-ci-pation! (clapping hands in time)!! Every 10 to 14 days or so, I change out the questions. This edition includes a question about talents, and I’ve included my answer below…

Talents As An 8-Year Old: Jump roping, playing piano, playing handball, roller skating (on quads, yo. Not blades)

Anyway, the point is: if you don’t know what you’re good at, chances are you were once really invested in and gifted in some arena. Are you still doing those things, practicing those habits that allowed you to excel when you were eight years old? I still play piano, I still can rock the quad roller skates, though sadly, I have not played handball since I was maybe ten. But at least I know that I possessed some ability and interest at one point in my life.

  • Articulate Those Strengths Identifying strengths is an uncomfortable matter for many, but think of it like this: The sooner you identify  your talents and skills, the sooner you can secure the job, the college placement, the friends, the partners , the _____________(fill in the blank), that you desire in your life.

I’ve been responsible for hiring new employees in my field, and I’ve been on countless interviews as a counseling intern and as a waitress, a manager, a therapist, and for apartment rentals. COUNTLESS. I learned very quickly that the minute I show my uncertainty and disbelief in answering the question:

“What can you bring to this company? What are your assets? Your strengths, KJ?”

UMMMMM. Well, I have most likely removed myself from candidacy for the position, because I doubted myself and caused the interviewer to doubt me as well.  The ability to acknowledge and then verbalize your strengths is VITAL.

One day, we’ll perhaps breach the subject of all the jobs I’ve held, and places I’ve lived. It’s good stuff.

  • Accept Compliments Ok. I could write several theses on this subject. I’m going to try to do my best to simplify and summarize. *deep breath*. Say. THANK. YOU. Ahh, see? At the very least, when you feel your immediate verbal  smackdown bubbling from your throat—SHUT YOUR PIE HOLE. The feeling you have to deny  a compliment from others is simply your inner dialogue, your inner Bullshit Person whispering at you that you’re not worthy of nice testaments. Please STOP the negative self-talk. For one thing, people will not say nice things to you if you constantly argue with them. Another, the more you negatively talk to yourself, the more likely you will believe it…and other people will believe it too. Self-fulfilling prophecies are very real. We create our reality, my friends.

Me thinks that Ms. Kristen has had a little practice in a few of those suggestions. Do you see her telling Sean Penn to FUCK OFF because he’s incorrect in his assessment of her acting skills?? Uh. I think not.

When her colleagues and friends pay a compliment to Kristen, even if she doesn’t agree, she shuts her mouth. She doesn’t open the can of whoop-ass. Besides, her detractors and critics would pounce on her for being “ungrateful” if she did counter a compliment, and girlfriend does not have time to play those she-said/they-said games anymore.  So as a result of choosing to use her energy wisely, focusing on HER ASSETS, Stewie can transition from this (at the WTTR Press Premiere):

….to THIS…seamlessly, beautifully, the next morning (leaving Regis & Kelly early the next morning):

And she can confidently declare prideful, genuine, powerful statements like this:

“Unless you respect and like yourself, nobody else is going to”

Yes. That’s right. That’s what Kristen Jaymes Stewart told an interviewer this weekend during the WTTR press junket. She said she learned this lesson while playing the role of Mallory, a broken, but resilient girl. Perhaps  the character of Mallory has helped Kristen navigate away from internalizing the cruel,  alarming threats and criticisms from “fake fans” and Nonsensicals rampant these days. And perhaps Kristen is truly taking these moments of unrelenting scrutiny to OWN. WHAT. IS. HERS.  See how beautiful accepting the good can be?

Let’s chat about another Majestic Misfit who OWNS it, shall we?

FEATURED REBEL ROYAL: JOSEPH GORDON-LEVITT

I have been a fan of our FRR for at least a decade, maybe closer to two of ’em. For sure since he was a little guy, which means, since I was a little gal, since I’m only two years older than he is. I’ve wanted to highlight his Royal Rebelliousness for some time now, to applaud his transition from child actor to awkward (yesss) adolescent to the thoughtful, insanely talented revered indie actor that he is now. Much like our beloved Ambassador of Other, Kristen, JGL has been in front of cameras, since his age was a single digit (for the record, he was 6 when he debuted in Robert Redford’s A River Runs Through It). I feel like I had already known him for years by the time he appeared in  TV’s 3rd Rock From The Sun…ok, confession. I knew about him from his days in Disney’s Angels in the Outfield…anybody else? Any takers? Bueller? He shared leading role status in the beloved 10 Things I Hate About You alongside late, great Heath Ledger (to whom Joseph has some resemblance, no?), and he dazzled, danced, and endeared himself to us in one of my very favorites: 500 Days of Summer (what part of MUSICAL NUMBER don’t you just freaking LOVE??) Oh. And you may have caught him in  G.I.Joe as the nefarious Cobra Commander, but I wouldn’t be terribly surprised if you bolted straight up in your seat when you got an eyeful of Joe opposite Leo DiCaprio in this year’s Inception.


Born and raised in Los Angeles, California, Joe, as he prefers to be called, had early exposure to the pursuit of creativity and expression. His mother ran for U.S. Congress  for California as apart of the Peace And Freedom Party, and his father was a program guide editor for Pacifica Radio (KPFK–ahhhh I feel calmer just having typed out the name of that lovely station–I’m such a fan). Joe’s maternal grandfather is Michael Gordon, Hollywood director (think Doris and Rock in Pillow Talk).

After successfully navigating his adolescent years by attending public high school, avoiding fame, and appearing in a long-running and popular TV show 3rd Rock From The Sun, JGL decided to take a hiatus from acting and attend Columbia to study French, literature, and history. He has been quoted as knowing how fortunate he was to have had success and a job as child, which allotted freedom to pursue interests and education as an adult. He left Columbia after a few years of study to return to acting, and hellllooo provocative and proclamation! He participated in a series of projects such as Mysterious Skin (in which he played a gay prostitute) and Brick (as an adolescent running an underground drug ring) that had critics bestowing accolades and praise, calling him the “rising star” in acclaimed  and quality Indie films (Boston Herald), and “one of the hottest actors in the indie firmament” (New York Times).

Well, ok, I fell in love with the guy truly, when I saw his social media project/ stand against paparazzi: Pictures of Assholes <—Click for YouTube Link… Joe turned the camera on a couple of paparazzi and challenged them to seek awareness of how invasive and destructive paparazzi attention can be to one’s soul. Seriously. Swoon. Just goes to show that folks can be powerful and influential simply with words…and a willingness to talk.

A mirror can be a powerful intervention.

I wasn’t going to write about Joe today, because I just discovered that he is grieving the loss of his older brother David, a photographer, performance artist and definitive Other, who passed away earlier this month. Joseph collaborated with his brother often in projects, and Joseph cites David as an integral partnership and inspiration in the creation of HitRECord.org, his online collaborative production company . Following David’s death, Joe publicly asked artists, musicians, filmmakers and the world to celebrate his brother’s spirit with him. And well, you don’t have to ask me twice to honor a creative spirit.

Guitar player, singer, writer, collaborator, producer, dancer, intellectual, and a pursuer of Creative Expression and Challenge, Joseph Gordon-Levitt embodies the qualities for  Ambassador of Other, so beautifully, that, as with Kristen, I am struck speechless and greatly inspired. P.S. my crush on him increased exponentially after watching this: CLICK—>:::BAD ROMANCE:::

OFFENSES OF OTHERNESS:

*Is not interested in success, nor power or money. Seeks good scripts and personal connection.

*Dislikes the concept of celebrity, and believes the “true” people deserving of accolades are astronauts and teachers.

*Quote: “The most valiant thing you can do as an artist is to inspire someone else to be creative”

REIGNING OTHER QUEEN: KRISTEN STEWART

Though she is our elected Other Queen, Kristen may not have always believed that she had royal characteristics. Some extremely impressive Hollywood personalities have much to say about Kristen’s strengths and majesty, just in case she isn’t sure. Over the course of a singular day obscenely gifted colleagues such as James Gandolfini, James Woods, Jake Scott and Melissa Leo praised Kristen’s formidable talents and even gave statements comparing Kristen’s unique and high skills to those of acting legends Meryl Streep…Marlon Brando…Robert DeNiro.

Director Jake Scott compared Kristen's burgeoning skills to those similar in Meryl Streep

Reviews about Kristen’ ability to act include clips and phrases such as:  “raw vulnerability” ,”fierceness” “heartbreaking emotion”, “incredible uniqueness”, and “the potential to be one of the greats, if not THE greatest of her generation”. Two years ago, if you would have Googled Kristen’s name, you’d see her impressive resume, and the stunning list of legendary co-stars she’s worked with, and you might read that she’s disciplined, focused and even “brilliant”. Two years ago you may have also read that KStew was notoriously shy, awkward and uncertain in interviews and at press junkets. That she would bumble through interviews and project an aloof stance that unsettled journalists. Today, Kristen is sought after by high-calibre, legendary  film-makers as well as couture fashion designers; her name is being thrown around in major awards buzz, and she is landing on nearly every Best Dressed list published. She has a growing bevy of former-co-stars’ admiration and devotion, including James Gandolfini and Melissa Leo; Jodie Foster and Sean Penn, and the list goes on….

Thank you, @tiybor!

OFFENSES OF OTHERNESS:

*Is not interested in fame, nor power, or money. Seeks only the connection of humanity within the character.

*Is able to define and accept her strengths and challenges, on her own, and modestly.

* Quote: “Unless you respect and like yourself, nobody else is going to”

Because he approached paparazzi on the street and held up his own video camera (mirror) to patiently dialogue with them about intrusion of privacy and the price of celebrity, Joseph Gordon-Levitt is not only my hero, he is also a Rebellious Royal.

Because she is able to define, accept and constructively use the feedback about her strengths and challenges, all while in outrageously sexy dresses and heels, Kristen Stewart is our Reigning Other Queen.

JOE IS OTHER.

KRISTEN IS OTHER.

OTHERS ARE ABLE TO IDENTIFY AND EXPRESS THEIR OWN STRENGTHS

EMBRACE YOUR OTHER.

QUESTION: What were your talents as an 8-year-old? Do you use these assets today? If so: How? If not: Why do you think that is?

LONG A/N: **Big thank you to Emma from  @TeamKristenSite for the rec a long time ago for The Curse of the Good Girl. We had quite the book exchange didn’t we?

** Ever since I’ve moved over to WP, I have been writing Musings and publishing without pre-reading nor beta-ing. You’ve all been very kind in overlooking my silly typos and grammatical faux pas. I’m trying to break out of the habit of writing Musings the moments before publishing, and it’s been unsuccessful. The procrastination, unfortunately, is enabling me. Nonetheless, please give a warm shoutout to Buff_82 who designed the Pretty and the Banner for Musings, and ensures that the playlist I create each week is up and running on the site. So thank Buff for The Pretty and The Music.

**I may not publish next week, or if I do, it may not be Thursday. I am heading out of town for a psychology conference, and am planning Birthday Festivities with my beloveds. Basically that means, because of the nature of those plans, I don’t know if I will be here nor there. In this country? Probably. But I cannot guarantee. *giggles*

**WINNERS of The Kathryn LeGrice Originals Giveaway, I hope to get your prints in the mail by this weekend. I’m so pleased that they’re traveling literally around the world…Spreading the Other Love!!

**As usual, I do not mean to diminish the great importance and awe I feel in repeating/emphasizing this: Your letters, tweets and comments completely blow my mind and make my life. Thank you so much. I have responded to all of last week’s comments, and am working through the emails too. But I assure you, I have received your words and I HEAR YOU. I DIG YOU. KEEP ON, YOU GUYS. You’re making an incredible difference out there by pursuing your bliss, embracing your Otherness, opening up to synchronicity, supporting Kristen and Rob!! You are perhaps sparking a Movement-A REBELLION….KEEP GOING!!!

**My Cyber Sisters/Readers: You rock me. I am honored to be in the company of such brilliant, funny, talented women. We’re about to hit an anniversary here soon…CHEERS!

All my love, and see you soon. xo, KJ

26 Responses to “Acceptance of The Good”

  1. L October 23, 2010 at 11:52 pm #

    Oh, KJ, once again you make me sob. All of these posts make you really, really REALLY look at yourself. It isn’t always easy, and you don’t always like what you see, but the mirror is helpful. Love you!

    • KJ October 26, 2010 at 5:51 pm #

      L, you always leave the best comments. Thank you so much for supporting Musings from the very beginning, you’re an OG! And yes, mirrors can be harsh and cruel as well as illuminating and hope-instilling. Super difficult to look into head-on, I concur. A lot of time is spent avoiding looking in the mirror and I know I can find a dozen or so distractions in my immediate vicinity to enable my avoidance…Like my days in grad school and college: when a paper was due the next morning, I suddenly found that my car needed to be cleaned RIGHT NOW, or that I needed to vacuum, or even go for a run (drastic measures for me). Owning up to my faults as well as my strengths is the same way–a mad dash to look anywhere but in the mirror. Love you too, hun. Hope to see you in my visit(s) down there in these next weeks. xo, KJ

  2. Crystal October 23, 2010 at 12:28 pm #

    Oh KJ I love your musings and cannot wait until I have my laptop (which a handsome Fifty is fixing and soldering 5 feet away from me right now) so that I can read and comment at the same time. In the meantime this comment is made possible by his his iPad!

    First of all, the photos of Kristen on this post blow me away. HOLY HELL could she be any more gorgeous?!?! I don’t think I realized just how much I missed her until I saw all of these photos. The drought is over and the sun has come out and its glorious!

    At 8 years old, I wrote. I had an old typewriter that my parents found at a yardsale and pretty sure they were constantly buying new typewriter ribbons for me. I really enjoyed writing ghost stories haha. It was corky but it was my passion. In grade seven when Scream came out and I Know What You DiD Last Summer, I started writing horror novels. Pg-13 style Christopher Pike-esque stories. Then by high school I had the idea for the book that I finished writing this past year and I am currently editing with tshe hopes of getting it published, so yes, my passion at 8 is still alive and well at 26 and I’m glad… I couldn’t live if I couldn’t write. It’s my thing.

    So thanks you again for inspiring all of us with this weeks musings – you really do make a difference ❤

    • KJ October 23, 2010 at 2:42 pm #

      There is so much WIN in your comment, my friend, I don’t even know where to begin!! First, I love that your Fifty is working to connect you with your laptop again, I know how integral it is to YOU and your daily existence..and thank him for sharing his iPad with you so that you can comment!! The pics of Kristen this week are INSANE IN THE MEMBRANE, right? Here comes the sun, indeed! I love your memories of writing as an 8 year old, and I share your enthusiasm for typewriters. There is nothing like the sound of those stamps hitting the paper. I realized I loved writing and reading too, with ghost stories…and the fact taht you mentioned CHRISTOPHER PIKE?! OHMAHGAWD! I had all of his books as well as R.L.Stine and Richie Tankersley Cusick’s works…I found myself an original follower of LJSmith’s series, including the Vampire Diaries, and I was madly in love with reading, writing and creating stories. I am so glad you’re pursuing your passion that you were so dedicated to at even 8 years old, it is SO your thing, my dear. Thank you for checking in and leaving such generous words and for showing us how to embody and live creatively…Pursuing the Bliss…ahhh. much love, xx, K

  3. Indiapale October 23, 2010 at 9:53 am #

    Wonderful again K! Are you a fan of Marcus Buckingham by any chance!! He promotes building on your strengths, not weaknesses and is in Los Angeles.
    Have a great trip – looking forward to your next Musings.

    • KJ October 23, 2010 at 2:34 pm #

      Hi IndiaMom! I don’t follow Marcus Buckingham specifically, but I definitely will peek into his work, as I am always happy to see the message of positivity and strength promoted! Always! What it really comes down to for me is knowing that we all have assets and gifts that can be contributed positively and with the intent of building up, NOT tearing down. Thank you for your lovely words and recommendation my friend. Hope to see you soon…I’ll be traveling quite a bit in the next three weeks, but will always, always be musing…Hope you’re well too…xo, K

  4. Meow October 22, 2010 at 4:04 pm #

    Hey KJ, a little late coming by here, but just wanted to say how much I enjoy your musings, as well as learn a great deal from then. Wish I’d met you when I was 8! We’re always our own worst critics, and there are always other outside opinions too willing to contribute as well. In the one interview (might have been the one with Josh?)when Kristen talked how she was lucky in the fact that she’s always liked herself, I wanted to give her a standing ovation. That right there is perhaps the biggest reason I’m a fan of hers. We, as women, very rarely hear another woman say that she’s comfortable in her own skin. If we had more examples such as Kristen’s, heard it more often, embraced it, and became comfortable with telling our own selves the same thing, think of the epic positive changes it would make in us, which would then spread out to the other people in our lives, and so on. Thank goodness Kristen does like herself; I’m sure she leaned on that during all the fvckery she’s endured the past few years. I’m glad you focused on it in your latest blog. It would serve us well to repeat those words daily to ourselves.
    Hope to see you here again soon. Blessings, meow

    • KJ October 23, 2010 at 2:28 pm #

      Hi Meow! There it’s never a late moment in coming here, my dear, the time you take is THE PERFECT time! I’m so pleased that you dropped by to say hello and leave kind words in the midst of your busy schedule, so thank YOU! I also saw the interview where Kristen speaks of her gratitude and awareness of the blessings and fortune in her life, and that she has always liked herself..I wouldn’t be terribly surprised if it was with Josh H, he can procure the BEST interviews with her…It is incredible and inspiring to see a woman who is comfortable in her skin, I agree. Kristen is a pristine role model, I think. Perhaps the subject of comfort in one’s skin and self-confidence is the essential, baseline topic we could all benefit from revisiting from time to time, I know I need daily reminders…Hope to see you soon, my dear! love and light your way, K

  5. Matt October 22, 2010 at 6:51 am #

    You continue to amaze. The insights you give and the economy of your presentation is perfect. It helps when Our Girl has a week like this – batting 1000. She really is maturing right before our eyes. I hope more young women come to recognize her for the model she is.

    • KJ October 22, 2010 at 3:49 pm #

      Hey Matt! I’m always so happy when you come by to say hey and leave calming (and warm, generous) words! And I will say, without in any way diminishing your compliments, that this week’s appealing Musings are in direct correlation to Kristen’s splendidly successful promotional tour. She models, then inspires poise, graciousness and intelligence. I do feel that people are finally catching on. Slowly, but surely. *fist pump* Thank you very much for your kindnesses, you’re appreciated more than you may ever know. xo, KJ

  6. DeeDreamer October 22, 2010 at 6:02 am #

    Oh, KJ – love this installment. I’ve been aware of JGL for a long time, too, but it was his role in 500 Days of Summer that really brought his talents to the forefront for me. It was my totally awesome, amazing mother who actually saw that movie and encouraged me to watch it, telling me JGL was the next “it” guy. (Do I have the coolest mom evah, or what??) And I can’t agree with you more fully about the transformation we’ve seen in our reigning Queen as evidenced in her appearances this week. “Gorgeous” doesn’t begin to encapsulate her look; “authentic” doesn’t begin to capture her personality. If you didn’t love her before, how could you not now, after seeing her snuggle up with Jake Scott and laughing standing next to James Gandolfini? *sigh*

    Thank you for sharing, as always. xoxo ~DD

    • KJ October 22, 2010 at 3:40 pm #

      Hi, D! When I heard 500 Days of Summer was being made, I may or may not have squealed. I have enjoyed JGL since the early days, but was really looking forward to his work in that film. He did not disappoint. I wanted to put a gif or a vid of the dance sequence in this week’s Musings, but I didn’t quite have the proper skillz nor resources just yet to do so. But I adored this film. You’re mom absolutely ranks up there with cool cats, my girl! There are not enough adjectives to describe the Supremacy of Kristen for this week, but it has been just glorious to witness, I agree. And I absolutely delighted in the Jake Scott and James Gandolfini snuggle pics. There is so much win in those pics I kinda went semi-comatose in reaction. Thanks for coming by and leaving kind, lovely words as always, my friend. xoxo, K

  7. Misty October 22, 2010 at 5:45 am #

    Hi, KJ. Another great musings and hell yeah, Kristen rocked this week. She was poised, beautiful and showed the most confidence I have ever seen. She must be truly happy and in a good place. And love, love, love her pics with Jake Scott as well as James Woods gushing over her on the red carpet. People can hate on her all they want but it is very obvious that those who truly know her and work with her think that she is fabulous. She is truly an impressive girl
    As far as, JGL… I have a crush on him. 500 days of summer just sealed the deal with me. He is truly a artist and rebel.

    • KJ October 22, 2010 at 3:33 pm #

      Hey Misty! I agree completely. Kristen was phenomenal this week, and her confidence and grounding was borderline insane. It was absolutely wondrous to witness. I loved the Jake Scott and James Gandolfini pics too, and I stare in awe at the James Woods interviews. It’s true what you say, despite the unfounded and vicious hatred thrown at her, it only clarifies that such vileness comes from people who do NOT know Kristen. For the ones that do? Gush, praise, worship. And as for JGL, oh yeah. He’s the quintessential Rebel for me too. 500 Days of Summer just further cemented it for me, but his rendition of Bad Romance (linked on Musings) KILLED. ME. xx, KJ P.S. You should be receiving mail in a few days! Yippee!

  8. true love October 22, 2010 at 5:16 am #

    K..
    ONCE more i’m speachless..amazing words..thank you for been such a powerful person..thank you for the pictures of kristen..she is indeed wonderful and Queen…thank u for Joseph..input..very good info..take care lovely lady..God Bless u always..xoxoxo..;0)

    true love

    • KJ October 22, 2010 at 3:28 pm #

      Hola, Mija True! Thank you for stopping in and reading as you do every week. I know you’re a busy lady and you are always so generous with your time and words. I am only as powerful as you and our sisters are, Mija. You give me energy and support and incredible insight so I can ramble on Thursdays at you. So thank YOU. Love and light to you. xoxo, K

  9. Milly October 22, 2010 at 1:48 am #

    There are a lot of blogs out there filled with trivial bullshit and so it is obscenely refreshing to see something that is sincere, inspirational and pretty fucking cool too. Danke for providing such a great blog for us all to read.
    It is an ongoing joke between me and my friends that if you try and compliment me the response back from me will be a stuttered “erm… yeah… kay, thanks” and an awkward shuffle about 2 steps back. I like to believe I am getting better at accepting compliments, but regardless of whether or not i have been, I hope that after reading this I will make a conscious effort to just shut the fuck up and say thanks.
    Anyway… what was I good at at 8? Football (soccer if your american), seriously I owned, for my age I could outrun all the boys and would lie about my age to get moved up into the higher age groups, I quit aged 11 though, because I didnt think that playing football would be something a high shcool girl did (biggest regret to date). Can you be talented at reading? If so, reading (i have kept that with me, books are a significant part of my life). I don’t think I really had many talents at 8… I could colour in pretty well I guess, I rarely colour nowadays (shame) but I think my prefectionist attitude derives from being adament about being within the lines.
    You continue to amaze me, so thanks x
    PS JGL + KS in 1 post = Uber happy Milly.

    • KJ October 22, 2010 at 3:26 pm #

      Cheers, Milly! I am very familiar with the flailing about and stuttering my disagreement when complimented. I am VERY familiar. I also still have the Bella Swan Blush working against me too, so its futile to try and deny. Don’t be too hard on yourself, though, accepting compliments and acknowledging strengths is tough for a lot of us, so you are in good company. I LOVE that you were a badass football playing girlie! Already defying convention so young, Kudos! Yes, I think you can absolutely be a talented reader and colour-er. These interests and skills are extremely influential in our formative years, as you’ve illustrated…our need to stay within the lines can be relentless, but once in awhile, I find that wandering outside them is liberating, even if just for a second. I say we make some time for free-colour sessions, ok? And I’m so glad you’re Uber Happy Milly. Combining KGL and KS makes for a Uber Happy KJ as well. Be well, girlfriend. Thanks so much for popping by and for your kind words. Keep On!! Always, KJ

  10. Cheermom October 21, 2010 at 8:53 pm #

    KJ…another beautiful musings! You amaze me! The way you tie everything in, we can all truly relate to and learn from what Kristin goes through. I do NOT accept compliments well at all…I do say “thank you”, then internally roll my eyes because I think they are just being nice. As I’ve gotten older, I am getting better at accepting that yeah…there are some things I am good at (and those that I’m bad at)…but I have learned to OWN who I am…good things and flaws.

    Your post today is a prime example of Kristen maturing…she has always accepted herself for who she is, including her flaws…and she has always owned it…but she has to do it in front of millions of people. The scrutiny she faces on a daily basis as a young woman is horrendous…and she handles it with class. I can learn a lot from her, and I am way beyond her 20 years! I only wish I could have owned who I was at 20 years old!!!

    Thank you for making me think about who I am, accepting myself flaws and all, and striving to be a stronger person!

    Kisses!

    • KJ October 21, 2010 at 9:35 pm #

      Hiya my friend! Compliments are hard for me to accept as well. It’s something I work on often, and writing Musings has helped me in that respect. So, THANK YOU for your kind words about Musings. I say you’re doing pretty damn well just by saying thank you and not publicly contesting it as I know you want to. I’ve witnessed your stubbornness, lady! And you’ve perfectly described what it is to own what is yours, even the challenges, and YES, the positives. So congratulations on making a little bit of peace with that…Kristen is absolutely growing and role modeling for us how to OWN and prevail despite the sometimes ruthless criticism–she’s quite the muse! Thanks for always being so supportive and open to stepping outside your comfort zone. You’re a warrior! kisses back, baby! xo, K

  11. Ella October 21, 2010 at 7:05 pm #

    Thank you for your time and effort devoted to writing this beautiful post. G-d bless you.

    • KJ October 21, 2010 at 7:54 pm #

      Hi, Ella. Thank you for taking the time to read, and for leaving a comment. Your kindness is greatly appreciated, more than you could possibly know. Take care, and hopefully we’ll get the chance to talk again soon. xo, KJ

  12. Mel452 October 21, 2010 at 6:36 pm #

    You constantly amaze me with your posts. Every week your posts hit home with me. Not only because of our Reigning Other Queen…am so proud of her, but also for touching on certain subjects. We really find it hard sometimes to recognise our strengths. You have made my day a tad better today. Thank you darl.

    • KJ October 21, 2010 at 7:34 pm #

      Heya, Mel-Darl! You’re very kind with your words. I assure you, if the essays are striking a chord with you, they are absolutely relevant for me, for our friends, for many folks I’ve encountered. Recognizing strengths somehow doesn’t come so easily for us, and yet, we are only too quick to believe anything negative. Not even our Royal Rebels are immune, as we’ve learned. It’s incredible witnessing Kristen and Others transcend the negativity thrown at them. Their resilience can remind us that we possess our own strength as well. Hope your day continues to improve, Darl. xo, K

  13. Periwinkle October 21, 2010 at 3:41 pm #

    You amaze me. Your ability to hand-pick awkward moments in time and harsh unpleasantries (ie the papparazzi taking pics) and uncover how these situations make their targets unique and strong is truly fascinating and revealing. Thank you for sharing your amazing, unparalleled perspective and understanding of both the Queens and others of the world, and thank you for exploring how we can utilize their messages and situations to make our own better. Your musings are truly uplifting as a read for fans and for those of us who all need a reminder of our own self-worth from time to time. thank you!!!

    • KJ October 21, 2010 at 7:19 pm #

      Hi my friend Peri! I honestly cannot take the credit in these moments..Kristen, Rob our Featured Rebels are already incredible muses for dialogue. Role models. They are showing us how to navigate through these harsh unpleasantries with class and dignity even while in the unrelenting spotlight. Thank you for coming back each week to partake in my ramblings and taking a chance at utilizing their messages! We all need our reminders. That’s why it’s miraculous that so many of us are discovering and embracing our Otherness together..We’re all ready much more alike than different…Much love, my dear. See you around 😉 xo, K

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